Fight Fair

It’s a fact that everyone in a relationship has long and draining arguments and fights. I am not just talking about husband and wives, boyfriend or girlfriends, but all relationship in general like friends, co-workers, parent and child, etc.

Our mistake is that instead of finding a common ground to resolve the issue we rather delve into going deeper into fault finding and mud-slinging, making it more strenuous and tedious for both parties.

As humans it’s our nature to always want to win an argument. So instead of getting the result we want for starting the fight or wanting to win the fight, the discussion becomes uglier than it suppose to be. We lose our ground because we didn’t handle the situation very well. This ugly brawl will either lead to break-up or separation, and instead of growing together you grow apart because hatred and resentment sets in. Mostly if we are the type who holds grudges and burn bridges immediately without thinking.

I am quite an expressive person, and I like to say everything I wanted to say and say whatever I feel whenever I exchange blow with anyone. It’s because I believe that it’s best to let everything out in the open than hold out because what you keep to yourself will be a hindrance to a smooth flowing relationship and peace of mind. I believe that there will always be a tell-tale signs that you are holding out on something or if someone is keeping something from you, like an invisible wall in between.

But everyone is different, some like to be confrontational, some like to keep quiet for a moment, back-off and cool down for awhile instead of going for a head on collision because they believe that this will just make things worse. Some people belch out personal insults that are really hurtful, especially when mad or hurt.

Remember, you can never take back whatever you said. It’s so easy to fall into a mud-slinging tussle than to be receptive and apologetic. Instead of meeting half-way and making-up, we tend to walk out completely of a relationship because we lost face already.

When in a dispute with someone, instead of finding fault, find a solution. Instead of throwing blames give constructive criticism. What was the reason for the argument, the misunderstanding? Stand on your ground but don’t demean people. What could have bothered you so bad that you are willing to let go of the relationship that easily. What’s important anyway, your pride or your relationship?

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