Practice Patience

It takes months for a seed to grow into a plant, years before it becomes a tree, few more months before it will have flowers to bloom and months before it will bear fruit. It takes a lot of patience and care for the farmer who planted the seed to harvest and benefit from his tolerance and hope that one day the seed he planted will bear fruits.

I strongly believe in the saying that patience is a virtue. With the entire charade and toil one encounters through life it is hard to practice it.
“He who hesitates is lost.” A phrase I passed by and I have for my welcome note. But I ask you now, what is time anyway? Age, month, years, hours are they the measurement of “time?”

Who concludes it’s too long? Who concludes it’s too short? Something good is worth the wait but what if there’s no time remaining? Now tell me who should judge what time is?

There are events in our lives that test our endurance to every obscurity, condition and people we meet along our way. When our stress triggers us to one situation, it’s either we burst out or we give up.

Having the patience of the saint is a rare quality especially in this fast phased life we are living right now. It seems we let the other people around us dictate how we go through our lives. We often think too much about their opinion instead of our own liking and preferences.

If someone or something stresses us, stepping back for a few moments is a good way to gather our thoughts and evaluate the situation. We are no saints but we can practice patience in our daily lives before making a big decision or saying things we might regret later on.

When making a decision analyze if you are doing it for your own good and your preference or you are doing it for someone else’s preferences and their benefit. By the end of the day, even if the objective was good, if you have regrets with what you did or say weighs more because it all boils down to you, if you are happy or not with what you did. Happiness will show from within. You can’t give what you don’t have, so goes a popular adage.

Patience is the ability to count down before you blast off.

Author Unknown

Expect the Unexpected

Will you agree if I tell you that if you want to be happy in life, you should keep all your commitments and don't expect other people to keep any of theirs? Yeah, I know that sounds unfair and I would imagine you already have your brows raised and probably have your eyes rolled up to the left thinking about it at the same time.

Honestly, every one expects a little of something from anything and anyone. When we do something for someone, in the corner of our minds and probably in our subconscious one day your good deed will be returned favorably. It’s near impossible to never expect.

Expectations, even the slightest hope for it can sometimes makes us upset, especially when what we hope for didn’t come out the way we secretly wished it would be. Even if we said we didn’t expect anything anticipation still arises and seems an instinctive trait we all have.

Disappointment arises when expectations are not met. So how do we keep our sane, be normal, and just be us and still be happy or happier. It's simple by just lowering your expectations you lessen your chance to be disappointed or frustrated. You see expecting other people to keep their part of the bargain, unwritten or not is (a) unrealistic and; (b) an invitation to irritation.

When the favor you did was returned great! When it is not don’t fuss about it.

The best things in life are unexpected,

because there were no expectations.

Eli Khamarov

Happy People Cherish Today

I want to apologize to the people I made sad with my post yesterday, it wasn't meant to make people sad by the realization of a loss or losing something, it's just something I wrote to make people realize that in order to feel and enjoy true joy one must also know what pain and sorrow is. That is the balance of life. Anyway, I promise and try not to make anyone sad from this side of my blogging world. You can go to my other blog for some sad realizations in life.

Last year, a pan-European opinion poll conducted for the European Commission and was published by Reuters revealed that that 87 percent of EU citizens considered themselves happy, with a record 97 percent in Denmark. Denmark was also considered as the Happiest Country in the World. Only in Bulgaria, which joined the bloc in January last year, did a majority of people (55 percent) say they were unhappy.

The survey measured happiness levels with how people regard their personal and social lives that included family, friends, work, leisure and politics. They found out that the major worries of Europeans, and the main reason for their unhappiness was the uncertainty about the future (retirement and pension).

I haven’t seen a similar study for U.S. and other Western countries and even for Asia, but all I can say is that I believe everyone worries and fear things they are not certain and things they don’t know about, most especially about the future.

Me, I think I evolved, thirty years and yet I feel I am 69 already, with how I think of life and everything around me. But I am not holier-than-though, I am a devil-in-disguise! I am not a preacher too goodness no! Hahahahaha!

Anyway, I don’t worry about the future, well of course I think about it and wish the future holds much better days, but how can I get to my future without investing more on my present. If one worries about the future one can never have a satisfying present and will never ever experience living.

The future is tomorrow, and I believe tomorrow never really comes, because the tomorrow of yesterday was today. If we worry about tomorrow we are worrying about nothing. Today or the present is the only one that exists for everyone and we should make the best of it.

We shouldn't even need to worry about the past and we should be haunted by what we did wrong in the past. We can make up for every wrong doing it today, in the here and now. We can never undo anything we did in the past and we can't plan what will happen in the future. So whatever we can do for today do it now for tomorrow never comes and we can never go back to yesterday.

It is true that it’s not easy to thread on today without thinking about the present but as long as you have a goal in mind do what you can today to achieve it, never hesitate, just thread lightly as you can, slowly but surely.

But I do know happiness cannot be measured because happiness is a fleeting moment in ones life. Nothing is ever constant; life is a never ending roller-coaster ride. Feelings don’t stay stagnant.

Cherish today, it’s the present. Cherish everything and everyone around you now, before it’s too late because tomorrow may not come. Just be content with what you have, where you are and who you are with. Do the best you can every moment of your life. That is what I think is the formula to be happy.

Let Go and Move On

It's over. It's done.
Why do we have to part while the love is still there?
Why do we have to suffer?
Why do we have to cry when somebody bids goodbye?
Why do beginnings have an end?
Why do we have to meet only to lose in the end?
There are questions left unanswered, words left unsaid,
letters left unread, poems left undone, songs left unsung,love left unexpressed, promises left unfulfilled, dreams unfulfilled.

In a relationship, or anything else that matters, one of the hardest things to do is to say goodbye and let go. It is as hard as breaking a crystal because you'll never know when you will be able to pick up the pieces again. More often than not, those who leave, feel not the pain of parting: it is they who stay behind that suffer, because they are left with memories of a love that was meant to be, a love that was. Of being separated from something that made them feel special and happy for a moment in time.

At the beginning and in the end of a relationship, we are embarrassed to find ourselves alone. Losing something we once have is more often than not difficult as separation anxiety gets us. Unfair as it may seem, but that's the way love and life goes. That's the drama, the bittersweet and the risk of falling in love and being alive.
We have to remember after all, that nothing is constant but change. Everything will eventually come to its end without us knowing when, without us knowing how, without us even knowing why. And we must forget not because we have to but because we have to.

In letting go, sorrows come not as a single spy but in battalion. It seems that everywhere you go, everything you do, every song you hear, every turn of your head, every move of your body, every beat of your heart, every blink of your eye and every breath you take always reminds you of him/her or the things that made you happy once upon a time.

It's like feels like a stab of a knife in your heart, a torture in the night. Funny to realize how the whole world becomes depopulated when only one person is missing or when we are alienated with the places or things we use to enjoy. Just imagine, there are billion people on earth and yet it seems you feel lonely and empty without the other.

I don't know if it's worth calling an art, but letting go entails special skills sparkled with a considerable space and time. Time heals all wounds but it takes a little push on our part. Acceptance plays a part. Not all love stories end with "...and they live happily ever after."

Sometimes we have to part because of circumstances beyond our control. We have to suffer if it would mean happiness for others. We have to cry to temporarily let go of the pains. Every beginning has its end like every dawn has its dusk. It's something we can't control, something we have to live up.

It's over. It's gone. But life has to go on. Goodbye doesn't always mean forever. There will always be a place and time where questions will be answered, words will be spoken, letters will be read, poems will be recited in the night, songs will be sung in harmony, love will be expressed in solitude and promises will be fulfilled. Somewhere, somehow, someday.

Letting go is allowing the hurt linger until you get tired of it to actually be able to tell yourself that you are ready to move on. This is an edited re-post from my 360 blog more than a year ago.)

Being strong sometimes means being able to let go. To be happy we must free ourselves of our past and carry our loads lightly.

We must be willing to let go of the life we have planned, so as to accept the life that is waiting for us.

Joseph Campbell

Chasing Your Happily Ever After or Living It?

Fairy tales taught us that the main character will find his or her happily ever after in the end of the story. It's either a knight-in-shining-armour will come to save her and that there will be a damselle-in- distress that needs rescuing by the brave knight. That villains will be punished and that everyone will rejoice when the prince charming gets the princess and gets married. The story stops there. The end.

We all strive to find our happy ending, but do we want it all to end when we already achieve that happines we all look for? Ofcourse not. We want to live in that moment and wish time to stop or gets slower so that the happy moment will last like forever util we breathe our last breath.

We will always find what we are looking for if not now maybe the next best thing to it and you all will surely find your happy ending where a new story will begin you just have to keep on looking or be content to what comes your way.

Searching for true happiness and the quest to achieve it is not an easy task, that was what I though before. Because I use to believe that struggles and roadblocks will always be a hindrance that will leads to where I want to be. But I was wrong, happiness is being satisfied with the now and actively choosing happiness over sorrow. Life is never easy but we can thread lightly.

It's been said that our destiny is laid to us even before we were born, it is not there waiting for us and ready to come straight at us in an instant. It's there it is what's meant for you. Yes we have to go and we will go through many obstacles, meet people, deal with situation that will affect wherever we wish to be. Sometimes we give up so easily because we can only take so much.

Is giving up the only option? Is surrendering to your failure the only best thing to do? Is this what you want? Is this what you think you deserve? Will you be happy in this decision?

Yes, your happiness matters. If you are not happy then those people around you can feel it. Sometimes we should be selfish to think first of our welfare before anyone else because if we are not happy within ourselves whatever we do will be temporal and after awhile we will feel empty. Go chase your happily ever after.

How do you know its your happily ever after? When you open your eyes when you wake up in the morning with a smile on your face and a glow in your heart, with little worries, and you can sleep comfortably at night I think thats how you'll know your living your happily ever after.

My Statement of Gratitude

I made this blog solely to be more upbeat and appreciate even the small things in my everyday life because simply I am tired of worrying, tired of hearing complaints and tired of the growing negativity around the world and it’s simply draining (and it’s not good for the complexion too, imagine wrinkles, dry skin, zits, frizzy hair!)

Almost two years ago when I created my S.H.O.E. , a month ago I created this blog and it tremendously helped me with my outlook in life and I can easily stomp off negativity, honestly.

Of course, there is the occasional outburst, but like what Shrek always say better out than in. I also have a place to dump my complaints, grievances and hysteria, my other blog, my PMSing mode blog (Pissy Mood Syndrome) Earthly Explorations . Once it’s out, let go. I actually laugh at my silly outburst sometimes when I see them in that blog.

Thank you so much Pinay Jadefor tagging me with this Statement of Gratitude. How I am gratitude let me count the ways:

One, I am gorgeous (hahahaha! nobody is allowed to complain here go to the complaints link if you want to hahahaha!). Two, I am so lucky to have my family, despite our sometimes love-hate relationships, it’s normal, when you love someone you are not afraid to tell them of their mistakes and love them all the same despite their imperfections. Three, I have the most sweetest, prettiest, smartest, mischievous, loving daughter. Four, I am happily in love everyday of my life and I am thankful for finding a man who compliments me in every way. Five, I love how he loves me, true we have our ups and downs but we have weathered all the storms, I would be the happiest woman on earth when we will be able to prove the world they are wrong. But, honestly, we don’t need to prove anything to anyone but ourselves and that is all that matters. Six, I have the most amazing, nicest, playful cat in the world, my cat never fails to amaze me with all her crazy antics and her loving ways. I love that cat. Seven, I’m glad to have internet at home and blog and write and create stuffs with pictures using photoshop. Eight, I have accomplished so many things in my life that the average 30 year old like me might not have gone through. Nine, I have my share of the spot light and the 15 minutes and more of the fame allotted for every person in the world. Ten, good friends, who drops by from time to time, leave me notes, call me up, the thought that they remember is a feel good factor and I am thankful for they consider me as indispensible (indisposable?) friend.

If I count them one by one, this blog space will not be enough, so, I will just leave it at those ten general things. Material possessions and physical appearance wither, but what’s inside of you, how you feel inside and how you make others feel towards you are the greatest blessings and the ones to be most thankful about.

I hope everyone will find time to sit down and contemplate, if they cannot list down, everyday, the things they are thankful about each day and acknowledge all the beautiful things in their lives instead of the bad ones, probably that way, the world will change, not instantly though but slowly and surely.

I believe everyone has a thing or two to be grateful about, past or present experiences. I encourage you to post and tag along with this “Statement of Gratitude” on your blogs and copy the statement below as you tag others (but this tag is completely optional).

I am tagging: Donald , Prily , Bobby , Zunnur , Ambrosia , Salamat , and Piebuko

*Start Copy*
In order to be able to achieve and maintain happiness we need to, actively, be able to do two things:

1) Complain and then let go (Dump the baggage, the roadblocks to happiness.)
2) Express Gratitude (The open expression of gratitude promotes happiness.)
After all everyone has something to be grateful for and/or something to complain about. If you would like to share, please follow the appropriate link and do so: "Are You Grateful?", "Complain Complain Complain."

Add your name to the current List of Contributors:
1-Attitude,the Ultimate Power
2-Max
3-DianaCA's Metamorphoses
4-Mental Poo
5-My Thoughts
6-Baba Doodlius
7-Wake Up America
8-Life is a Roller Coaster
9-Life is beautiful
10. –My Happiness Haven *End Copy*

By the way, I would like to thank Blog Catalog for making me one of the Popular Blogs in the community. This is so inspiring, what a nice 1st Month gift. Thank you so much BC and all my friends in there for your support and inspiring words.

Oh yeah before I forget, don't forget to turn off the lights on the eve of March 29 on your respective countries just to give the Earth Hour a boost and have our little contribution for our dear planet! Happy Weekend!

Travel the World with Me

We live in a wonderful world that is full of beauty, charm and adventure. There is no end to the adventures we can have if only we seek them with our eyes open.

Jawaharal Nehru

Travelling and discovering new places, culture, foods, meeting new people and captivating the experience through photographs is a sure fire to make anyone happy.

On my sidebar is a list of the World’s Happiest Countries according to a research done by a university in UK. I wanted to write an individual feature on each country but it will be useless since I have not been in any of them. ( Although, inputs from everyone who lives or lived in the countries mentioned below would be nice. )

Anyway, just to summarize what the report said, in comparison to 178 countries they surveyed below were listed as the top-10 countries whose residents are happier and satisfied with their life. Click on their links and travel the world with me, I’m sure it will make you itch to travel the world :)

1. Denmark
2. Switzerland
3. Australia
4. Iceland
6. Finland
5. The Bahamas
7. Sweden
9. Brunei
8. Bhutan
10. Canada

11-20. IRELAND, LUXEMBOURG, COSTA RICA, MALTA, THE NETHERLANDS, ANTIGUA AND BARBUDA, MALAYSIA, NEW ZEALAND, NORWAY AND THE SEYCHELLES, respectively
My country, the PHILIPPINES ranked 78.

Other notable results was that USA is only 23rd; GERMANY 35th, UK 41st, FRANCE 62nd, CHINA 82nd, JAPAN 90th, INDIA 125th and RUSSIA 167th.

For a comprehensive report about this and to see where your country ranks just click this : World's Happiest Countries (know I know how to do linking it’s so easy and convenient :)

Fun Tagging Along

Don't listen to anyone who tells you that you can't do this or that. That's nonsense. Make up your mind, you'll never use crutches or a stick, then have a go at everything. Go to school; join in all the games you can. Go anywhere you want to. But never, never let them persuade you that things are too difficult or impossible.

Gwladys Douglas Bader

I’m so glad to get to know some nice and fun people at Blog Catalog. The_Mrs tagged me with this funtagged that according to her post promises more traffic and higher Technorati ratings. Honestly, like her I don’t understand the rating things but well I agree if this means people come here in and letting me know that I am not rambling to my self, is indeed a real good thing. I raise my glass at that.
How to do the tagging:

Rules:
1. Copy all the links below and replace your blog beside the appropriate letter. For example if your blog name starts with the letter "D" then replace the link beside "D" with yours, and put the replaced link at the bottom of the list. Also add the person who tagged you at the bottom of the list.
2. Tag at least 5 people and encourage them to take part of the game - tag blogs only and only those without bad rated material like pornographic, violence, racism etc.

My List:
A acowboyswife.com
B bloggingcents.com
C chatbugkaren.com
D delusionsofgrandeur.org
E everythingandanythingblog.com
F -
G GeekMomMashup.com
H hoysater.no http://hoysater.no/oyvind/
I ipentimento.com
J juliesjournal.com
K kabalyero.com
L ladylike4.com
M My Happiness Haven
N nicusor.com
O originalmx5.net
P peapodsquadstuff.com
Q qweddings.com
R ringtailsquealer.blogspot.com
S stephanmiller.com
T TenaciousCreations.com
U utada-online.net
V valmg.com
W wickedbabylon.com
X xaviermedia.com
Y yimto.com
Z zbudapest.com

Replaced link: michaelpark.net
Previous tagger: ringtailsquealer.blogspot.com

Blogs I'm tagging:
Pinay Jade Life is Beautiful
Prily Capturing the moments
Gagay’s One Corner of My Life
Bobby’s Sailing on a RelationShip
Shay’s Horop Horop

I visited all this blogs and I must say there are lots interesting blogs out there :) so it's really fun tagging along :)

Loving Earth

There must be a reason why some people can afford to live well. They must have worked for it. I only feel angry when I see waste. When I see people throwing away things we could use.

Mother Teresa

Hit two birds with one stone. That’s what I think this is.

One is to preserve the dying “industry” of snail mail postal services and two, its environment friendly because we can now get rid of our electronic junks easily and they will think of our trash instead of us storing or piling them up somewhere in our homes or disposing them improperly.

What am I talking about? It’s the recycle electronics by mail by the U.S. Postal Service which is just on a trial stage at the moment in 10 key cities in the U.S. including Washington, D.C., Chicago, Los Angeles and San Diego. It is a tie up project of the postal service with Clover Technologies group, a company in the U.S. known to recycle, remanufacture and remarkets inkjet cartridges and small electronics, as told by Computer World. If successful, it will go nationwide in the fall, it said.

To use the "Mail Back" program, find one of the 1,500 post offices that offers special free envelopes. Drop in your recyclable electronics item, and mail it without postage. Best of all, for those of us who live on the road, you can take as many "Mail Back" envelopes as you please, and use them to mail your electronics from anywhere. How convenient is that!

I think this idea is great. I hope it turns out successful in U.S. and eventually spread all over the world. We only got one planet and we all have the responsibility to take care of it. We all heard about the Global Warming and we should do our part even in our own little way to lessen the injury.

EARTH HOUR

On 29 March 2008 the Philippines will join countries around the world as we literally "turn the lights out" for Earth Hour - an event that will fuel awareness on climate change and prove that when the people of the world work together, they can make a difference in the fight against global warming.

Earth Hour will take place throughout the Philippines from 8 to 9 in the evening on Saturday night, 29 March 2008. WWF invites you to participate by shutting off lights for 60 minutes, organizing your own "lights-out" event or by forwarding information to your friends, workmates and family.

If you want to know more about the Earth Hour and what time and when it will be held in your country or if you want to participate as an individual go visit the Earth Hour website.

Those who dwell among the beauties and mysteries of the earth are never alone or weary of life.

Rachel Carson

A Fairy Tale

There is no end of craving. Hence contentment alone is the best way to happiness. Therefore, acquire contentment.

Swami Sivananda

A married couple in their 60’s was out celebrating their 35th wedding anniversary in a quiet, romantic little restaurant. Suddenly, a tiny yet beautiful fairy appeared on their table and said, "For being such an exemplary married couple and for being faithful to each other for all this time, I will grant you each a wish."

"Ooh, I want to travel around the world with my darling husband," said the wife. The fairy moved her magic stick and - abracadabra! Two tickets for the new QM2 luxury liner appeared in her hands.

Now it was the husband's turn. He thought for a moment and said: "Well, this is all very romantic, but an opportunity like this only occurs once in a lifetime, so, I'm sorry my love, but my wish is to have a wife 30 years younger than me.

The wife, and the fairy, was deeply disappointed, but a wish is a wish. So the fairy made a circle with her magic stick and - abracadabra - the husband became 92 years old.

The Moral of The Story:
Men might be ungrateful idiots.... But, fairies are....females.

Do not spoil what you have by desiring what you have not; remember that what you now have was once among the things you only hoped for. Epicurus

Thank God! It's Monday!

“Monday is the key day of the week.” I agree to what this Gaelic proverb quipped. We should be thankful for Mondays especially those who have to go to work? Why? Because this means you are one of the few lucky people who have a regular source of income and does not belong to the marginalized sector of the society because they don’t have work or can’t find work.

Work is about daily meaning as well as daily bread. For recognition as well as cash; for astonishment rather than torpor; in short, for a sort of life rather than a Monday through Friday sort of dying... We have a right to ask of work that it include meaning, recognition, astonishment, and life.

Studs Turkel

We should change the Monday sucks attitude to Monday is a blessing. This is a wonderful day where students will learn new things in school on Mondays, employees will start earning the money they spent on a weekend, employers will start to profit again as production begins and homemakers will have a quiet time at home when their husbands and children leaves for school .

When you don’t feel like working or you feel like literally dragging your feet off to bed on a Monday morning just listen to this song and hopefully it will get stuck in your heads to be the first song you sing when you wake up on a Monday moring to perk you up:

Happy Working Song from the movie Enchanted

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My S.H.O.E. (Seven Heaven On Earth) today:

1) I just want to share to everyone that since my last post about Clicksense, 3 days ago? I now have $.31 in my account. With what I read in others this is something, so check it out maybe you can have more than what I do, I'm just happy to see that I am earning here:

2) I also found this interesting and promising so see for yourself and let's track our improvements together if ever. I will surely update you about it. 3) One more thing... YAY! I now have 15 votes can we make it 50 votes for me:D Thank you! Vote me now!

4) A female work-mate and friend (Yoyah) just told me I look like Eva Langoria from Desperate Housewife on her billboard for Elseve in EDSA (a famous streen here in Metro Manila). Oh my! That's so flattering (*blushes*)

5) Yay I can do links now! Thanks to Zunnur for teaching me the ropes :)

6) Being told by the one you love this and reminds you everyday that "You are my dreams, my hopes, my future, and my fantasy... I love you with all my heart. I belong to you."

7) My daughter, and everything that she is.

Happy Easter! (Tag You are It!)

The resurrection gives my life meaning and direction and the opportunity to start over no matter what my circumstances.

Robert Flatt

My first ever tag! Thanks to Pinay Jade I have no idea how to make links inside the post though so please excuse.

Firstly, here are the rules:
1. Link to your tagger and post these rules on your blog
2. Share seven facts about yourself on your blog, some random, some weird
3. Tag seven people at the end of your post by leaving their names as well as links to their blogs
4. Let them know they are tagged by leaving a comment on their blog.

Weird / Random things about Earthlingorgeous

1. I like vinegar. Whatever I am eating there’s always a saucer of vinegar beside me. Yummy gets my appetite going.
2. I like to eat Milo sandwich. Milo is a powdered chocolate malt drink by Nestle.
3. I am scared of clowns.
4. I don’t drive and I don’t want to drive, I just want to be a passenger or at least someone drive for me.
5. My favorite part of doing the laundry is rinsing time. I love to get wet and wild! LOL! Using my favorite fabric conditioner, the earth friendly Downy 1 Banlaw!
6. I forget names easily, mostly random people that I met in person. Even if I have still photos with this person my head hurts to remember their name, it will take months before I remember the name, or another person reminding me of their names. A real awful and shameful experience honestly. Reason why sometimes people think I’m a snob but actually just too shy to talk to someone I know but I can’t remember the name.
7. I think I’m a very serious person. You can’t joke around me because I believe jokes are half meant. Yeah that bad! I think… I shouldn’t think anymore. What do you think?

Now I’m tagging enthusiastic new friends I made here in Blogger: Prily, LJ, Donald, Lisa, Cooper, Zunnur, Kiran and the Go! Smell flower smellers!

A true friend is someone who thinks that you are a good egg even though he knows that you are slightly cracked.

Bernard Meltzer

Tired of worrying

Happiness is liberty from everything that makes us unhappy.

Vernon Howard

“You sound very optimistic,” Jean Mondistin or eblog said on my shout box yesterday at Blog Catalog. I take that as a very nice compliment, it seems my efforts are working just fine.

I am so tired of being a pessimist and a worry wart. Worrying doesn’t do anything good to me. It gives me sleepless nights, depression, wrinkles, pimples, dry skin and weight loss. It’s no fun doing that at all. I am done at that point in my life that now is the time to be just happy.

This always reminds me of Bobby McFerrin’s song Don’t Worry Be Happy and this is my favorite line: “In every life we have some trouble, when you worry you make it double”. Very true! Worrying will never ever solve anything. Life isn’t perfect. As I always tell my mom if you don’t experience problems consider yourself dead.

Enjoy summer, if you are from where I am or enjoy spring, if you are from Canada or US.

Worry never robs tomorrow of its sorrow, it only saps today of its joy.

Leo Buscaglia

Perspective

Laugh at yourself and at life. Not in the spirit of derision or whining self-pity, but as a remedy, a miracle drug, that will ease your pain, cure your depression, and help you to put in perspective that seemingly terrible defeat and worry with laughter at your predicaments, thus freeing your mind to think clearly toward the solution that is certain to come. Never take yourself too seriously.

Og Mandino

I’m not all perky and happy; I can be a real bitch sometimes. I am not a perfect pretty little sweet miss. The monster in me comes out especially when I am PMSing or when G.E.M. (green eyed monster/jealousy) overcomes me. My hunny can attest to that and things can be real ugly when my hormones are soaring, I want to have a fight with everyone, I am mad at everyone and everything is just not right.

Since I started this blog last Feb 29, 2008 I felt real good. It’s wonderful, when I finally decided to change my perspective. Instead of complaining and be bitchy why I don’t get things to happen my way or don’t get what I want, I found a different approach and it’s very rewarding.

It’s not looking the other way when you see bad things. It’s changing your perspective about why these things happened and find a solution to make it better. When someone criticizes you, think of it as constructive criticism, maybe you really need to change how you do things.

I know that you, ladies and gentlemen, have a philosophy, each and all of you, and that the most interesting and important thing about you is the way in which it determines the perspective in your several worlds. William James

Humans have the ability to shift perspective. We can experience the world through our senses. Or we can remove ourselves from our senses and experience the world even less directly. We can think about our life, rather than thinking in our life. John J. Emerick

If the ones criticizing you are someone you barely know, dismiss whatever bad opinion they have of you, what should matter to you are the people around you, the people you interact with daily.

There are two ways of looking at it: When someone is having a good life they see all things beautiful when someone is having a crappy day they see shit in everything.

I think this is what they call paradigm shift.

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Happiness is a changeable thing it’s not permanent. The state of happiness shifts from year to year, month to month, day to day. Everyone experience highs and lows at different moments it’s near impossible to stay happy all the time. Don’t expect to be happy all the time or you will get disappointed. Even a happy person has moments of sorrow and doubts. It’s simply not realistic or even possible to be happy and thankful all the time, after all we are just human.

A happy person is one who has no cares at all; a cheerful person is one who has cares but doesn't let them get her down.

No matter how uncontrollable things are in your life now, don’t ever let it get you down. Everything in life is fleeting, instead of being overly serious, it will be best to think positively and if we do not find something pleasant at the moment, at least we find something new. Discovering new things is always good it means you are evolving and growing. All events are blessings given to us to learn from.

LOVE

The definition of happiness varies from one person to another but generally everyone would agree that happiness lies not just on external and superficial factors. To me love contributes a major part in every person’s happiness.

Love is the most powerful emotion in the world that can summon all other basic instinct of every human ranging from anger, fear, sadness and happiness.

To love is to suffer. To avoid suffering, one must not love. But then, one suffers from not loving. Therefore, to love is to suffer; not to love is to suffer; to suffer is to suffer. To be happy is to love. To be happy, then, is to suffer, but suffering makes one unhappy. Therefore, to be happy, one must love or love to suffer or suffer from too much happiness.

What makes life worth living is the knowledge that one day you will wake up and find the person that makes you happier than anything in the whole world can. So don't ever lose hope and give up, everything turns out okay and the good guys always wins.

SMILE!

Happiness is contagious,

when you reflect happiness

all others around you

catch the happy bug

and become happy too.

For most of us, happiness is just barely out of reach. We know we can achieve it. It is just a couple "if only's" away. We tell ourselves, "If only _____, then I'd be happy. I could relax." Therefore, we pursue what we feel is missing - confident in the knowledge that while we are not happy right now, we will be soon. When the time comes that we achieved that “if’s” we we’re after again we come to the point of telling ourselves again something still feels missing. New "if only's" pops up to replace the old ones. Again, we are caught in a race with a moving finish line. Contentment is more elusive than we had originally thought. Eventually, if we want to be happy, we must come to grips with an important fact. That we have been fooling ourselves. Contentment, it turns out, is not a destination. Rather, it is a manner of traveling. If we cannot feel it today, we will not find it tomorrow.

Live as if you were to die tomorrow. Learn as if you were to live forever. Be happy now!