Secrets and Future

I glanced on one of the Koreanovelas my mom likes to watch during lunch time and I was struck by a dialogue said by one of the characters. He was proposing marriage to this woman, and to what I heard the woman works as a Guest Relations Officer (G.R.O.) and this guy is a crook.

He said, the dialogue was dubbed in Tagalog, “In life we have secrets and future." My secret is I loved Selina (another character in the show), my future is I want to be with you for the rest of my life”. “You once told me that we should forget our secret because it’s the past and we can’t do anything to change it. But what’s important is the future, what you want to happen in your life in the here and the now.”

I was stunned that was logical and true come to think of it. Reason I rather be in front of the computer instead of sitting down at the living area with my mom is because of her Koreanovelas, I think they are corny and just another drama about life’s tragedies and misfortunes and the stupidity and naivety of the main character.

But this particular dialogue was so outstanding it makes perfect sense. Secrets and future, we all have our secrets and we all have our future. We may want to keep our secrets buried forever in the past or use it as a tool to live wisely in the present and future. The future although it is always uncertain, we can plan at the present where we want to go and what we want to achieve because our past gave us the lessons and the realizations about what do we want and what is important to us.

Happy People Cherish Today

I want to apologize to the people I made sad with my post yesterday, it wasn't meant to make people sad by the realization of a loss or losing something, it's just something I wrote to make people realize that in order to feel and enjoy true joy one must also know what pain and sorrow is. That is the balance of life. Anyway, I promise and try not to make anyone sad from this side of my blogging world. You can go to my other blog for some sad realizations in life.

Last year, a pan-European opinion poll conducted for the European Commission and was published by Reuters revealed that that 87 percent of EU citizens considered themselves happy, with a record 97 percent in Denmark. Denmark was also considered as the Happiest Country in the World. Only in Bulgaria, which joined the bloc in January last year, did a majority of people (55 percent) say they were unhappy.

The survey measured happiness levels with how people regard their personal and social lives that included family, friends, work, leisure and politics. They found out that the major worries of Europeans, and the main reason for their unhappiness was the uncertainty about the future (retirement and pension).

I haven’t seen a similar study for U.S. and other Western countries and even for Asia, but all I can say is that I believe everyone worries and fear things they are not certain and things they don’t know about, most especially about the future.

Me, I think I evolved, thirty years and yet I feel I am 69 already, with how I think of life and everything around me. But I am not holier-than-though, I am a devil-in-disguise! I am not a preacher too goodness no! Hahahahaha!

Anyway, I don’t worry about the future, well of course I think about it and wish the future holds much better days, but how can I get to my future without investing more on my present. If one worries about the future one can never have a satisfying present and will never ever experience living.

The future is tomorrow, and I believe tomorrow never really comes, because the tomorrow of yesterday was today. If we worry about tomorrow we are worrying about nothing. Today or the present is the only one that exists for everyone and we should make the best of it.

We shouldn't even need to worry about the past and we should be haunted by what we did wrong in the past. We can make up for every wrong doing it today, in the here and now. We can never undo anything we did in the past and we can't plan what will happen in the future. So whatever we can do for today do it now for tomorrow never comes and we can never go back to yesterday.

It is true that it’s not easy to thread on today without thinking about the present but as long as you have a goal in mind do what you can today to achieve it, never hesitate, just thread lightly as you can, slowly but surely.

But I do know happiness cannot be measured because happiness is a fleeting moment in ones life. Nothing is ever constant; life is a never ending roller-coaster ride. Feelings don’t stay stagnant.

Cherish today, it’s the present. Cherish everything and everyone around you now, before it’s too late because tomorrow may not come. Just be content with what you have, where you are and who you are with. Do the best you can every moment of your life. That is what I think is the formula to be happy.