Happiness is not elusive

Is happiness elusive or are we the ones avoiding it?

Take a look in the mirror and ask this one question “Am I happy?”

I assure you, you will find it difficult to answer that for yourself and if you do give a quick reply it is somewhere between “Not just quite,” “No”, “I’ll be happy when...”

Don’t worry I know what you mean that is my problem too. See, when I want something so bad I am a bit restless and don’t feel good until I have it. I am restraining myself from total happiness or at least the joy of enjoying what I already have because of something I want to have.

When you lock onto desire for something (or someone), you build up expectations and we know unfulfilled expectations always cause unhappiness. The greater the expectation we have the deeper the unhappiness we feel.

Are we living in an increasingly material world that we believe that external things we desire can complete our happiness? Can we never ever be satisfied? When will it be enough?

Gaining the satisfaction with what we have is not easy because we are easily tempted to compare ourselves with others who have more or something different you wish you have too. It is so difficult not to envy and to not compete.

But truly I can say that is the answer to our quest: “Find joy in what you have and stop looking at what others have.”

Don't worry, be happy! Smile!

These news caught my eyes last Friday (Aug. 15, 2008) in the daily newspapers here. It features one of my favorite relaxing song "Don't worry, be happy". Because according to the song when you worry you make it (your problems) double.

There's another song I also like that also illustrates the key to happiness or at least take us to the right track. The song Smile by Nat King Cole.

Smile though your heart is aching
Smile even though its breaking
When there are clouds in the sky, you'll get by
If you smile through your fear and sorrow
Smile and maybe tomorrow
You'll see the sun come shining through for you

Light up your face with gladness
Hide every trace of sadness
Although a tear may be ever so near
That's the time you must keep on trying
Smile, whats the use of crying?
You'll find that life is still worthwhile
If you just smile.

So... as these songs suggest , DON'T WORRY BE HAPPY and just SMILE!

Loving A Woman

I wanna share with you some exerpts from one of the writings of Walker Percy


Christ here's my discovery. You have got hold of the wrong absolutes and infinities.
God as absolute? God as infinity? I don't even understand the words. I'll tell you what's absolute and infinite.

Loving a woman.

But how would you know? You see, your church knows what its' doing; Rule out one absolute so you have to look for another.

Do you know what it is like to be a self-centered not unhappy man who leads a tolerable finite life, works, eats, drinks, hunts, sleeps, then one fine day discovers that the great starry heavens have opened to him and his heart is bursting with it.

It? She. Her. Woman. Not a category, not a sex, not one of two sexes, a human female creature, but an infinity.

What else is infinity but a woman become meat and drink to you, life and your heart's own music,the air you breathe? Just be here is to live and have your soul's own self. Just to open your mouth on the skin of her back. What joy just to wake up with her beside you in the morning.

I didn't know there was such happiness.

But there is dark converse: Not having her is not breathing. I'm not kidding. I couldn't get my breathe without her.

What else is a man dame for but this? I can see you agree about love but you look somewhat ironic. Are we talking about two different things? In anycase there's a catch.

Love is infinite happiness. Losing it is infinite unhappiness.

Just When...

Just when you think that your tired of your job,think again. Think of the million people just here in Metro Manila alone who are jobless. Think about how your job helps you with your daily spendings and other needs.

When you feel burnt out, take a time to relax. Once a month or twice a week won't hurt. Schedule something fun to do and something to look forward to at the end of your work week.

Just when you feel your mother or father or sister see every bit of wrong you do, think of it as their concern for you, their deepest and unconditional love for you. Your family will never do you wrong.

Just when you feel a friend or an acquaintance is sometimes too proud of her/his looks or of her/his abilities, letting you down, always feeling superior about themselves. Although sometimes it may be really irritating and way beyond border, remind yourself that people are different and there is always a reason for everybody's behavior.

Just when you feel low, look back and remember the happy moments and great achievements you have. Think of your old smiles. If you need an outlet to it go then go find that outlet. Let it be a sport or a hobby. Try to break a plate,scream, dance, drink but not so much that you can be be labeled an alcoholic. Just feel it, express it then release it. Let go!

Just when you feel that your life is falling apart and all your efforts fails. Try to relax and remind yourself that maybe the time isn't just right. Strive harder or take it easy. Talk to a friend or a loved one, ask anyone who can help you out with your frustrations. Do something you love. Relax, everything will fall into place don't be too comfortable though and just let be, if you want something so much you will try your best to achieve it. Keep true to your words and what you believe in. Keep your dignity.

Blog About Your Everyday Gorgeousness

I made a Meme/tag for everyone to enjoy and also to start the consciousness of finding one gorgeous thing, place, person or event in your everyday life (but this meme can be done once a week any day of the week (at least) to your convenience and pleasure).

Let's start the gorgeousness mantra. I am gorgeous. Like Fergi is Fergilicious, of course Earth is Earthlingorgeous. I hope you all join. Click here to link up! Have fun and have a gorgeous day!